Have you ever been in situations where you are not where you want to be, situations where you know you can be better than what you have accomplished at that juncture of life, where you are well aware of the path that you should not be taking but you walk down it anyway?
It is when this inclination emerges itself: the desire to be the best version of yourself in quenching your thirst to prove yourself to those who occasionally doubt your abilities, or simply to open those judging eyes for them to see what they are missing while they were constantly busy stacking you on the "non-important" section of their lives when your world revolves around them.
You tell yourself,
"Someday, I will be successful enough, rich enough, pretty enough, famous enough, that will spark this remorse inside them for not appreciating me when they had me right on their very palms. Instead, they blew me away together with debris in the air. I will become all that they ever want and on that moment I will be too happy with my life that they do not matter anymore, just someday."
Scrutinizing your thought process on what goes wrong that you deserve this heap of black mass of dejection on your back, you find that actually, there is no one to blame but you. You disrespect yourself in the first place that you pin your self-validation on other people. You think your happiness would not come into existence without the help of others, when in fact you are the one and only who are responsible for your very own contentment. One does not degrade themselves by transferring the power of controlling their life to other people because that is against the nature. It is your canvas to be painted on.
Then you realise, this grief that you feel is a blessing. Without it, you would not arrive to this point that leads you to the realisation that you, are enough. It makes you rethink, rearrange, and restart fresh in life. Your priority now is not to be better to certify your worth to others but for yourself.
To be at peace with yourself, is now your lifetime goal. The universe will conspire for as long as you believe in yourself.